Sep 28, 2017

Are you a jerk?

Chances are that you’ll answer this question with a resounding no. If you’re modest, you’d say you try not to be a jerk. But do you, really? It’s easy to laugh at that pretentious person you know or scoff at, like that annoying know-it-all in your office. It’s much more difficult, however, to realize that you might be that person everyone hates or laughs at. Not being a jerk is not exactly difficult but it does require some effort on your part. 

So, it’s time for some introspection. It’s time to avoid some of the things you do that make you look like a jerk.

1. Always remember to be polite

Politeness costs you nothing but it gains you a lot. It’s not just about earning people’s respect. Being polite can also have a practical advantage. You can get a lot of favors from people, if you’re polite, that you wouldn’t otherwise.

What exactly does being polite mean? You can perform all the proper etiquette and still seem like an idiot. When we say you have to be polite, we don’t mean that you have to just be well-mannered, although that’s a big part of the equation. Instead, being polite means giving proper respect to another person’s wishes and opinions, especially when doing so doesn’t benefit you in any way. 

2. Be careful with your opinions

Just because you have an opinion on the matter doesn’t mean you have to express it. You don’t have the responsibility to make the whole world understand your view. 

Most people don’t like to be contradicted and if you want to get along with all kinds of people, you need to remember that. Don’t contradict or dispute on every comment you hear. It can eventually become extremely annoying. Sometimes, silent agreement can do wonders for social engagement.

3. Remember to smile more

Smiling is a great way to put forward a friendly appearance. It lets people know you’re happy to see them. It puts them at ease in tense or awkward situations. A smile can defuse tensions or prevent them from arising in the first place. 

However, you don’t want to overdo it, otherwise, you would just look creepy instead of welcoming. You should know when and where to smile. These instructions might sound like doing a lot but it’s easy once you actually get down to it. 

4. Learn to laugh at yourself

Having a sense of humor is a great social skill but there are different ways of using it. You can tease your friends if you’re comfortable with each other. You cannot, however, do the same with strangers or acquaintances.

The easiest way to be funny and not hurt another person’s feelings is to make jokes about yourself. A well-timed, self-deprecatory joke adds to your charm and likability however, you need to be careful not to overdo it.

5. Ask questions and be a good listener

If you think you don’t have anything to contribute to a conversation, then don’t. Let the other person do the talking. Asking more questions is a good way to build conversational momentum and, at the same time, show that you’re interested.

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